"The one who stimulates attraction to herself by molding her complexities to meet a given situation and by demonstrating, at the same time, the effect her having on the situation has upon her own self, wins."
I'll confess that the first thing that caught my eye (sorry) about Jane Unrue's new book was this cover collage by Keith Waldrop, but then I went on to read the book.
You should, too . . . go to SPD and check it out.